Let us learn to give
but not to give in.
This should probably read
'Let us learn when it is right to give, and then, give.'
and 'Let us learn when it is right not to give in, and then, not give in.'
but, of course, it's not so succinct (or poetic)!
I add this because there are times when it is right not to give
and, conversely, times when it is right to give in (or so husband says, anyway!)
Sunday 22 November 2015
About realising our own worth
We are not extras but main players
in the film of our lives.
In our own lives,
we will always be a part of the team.
There is no substitute's bench.
I realise that this may read as being somewhat egocentric, but my purpose in writing it is to address the problem that people like me may have of always feeling that everyone else is more important than we are, or that we won't be picked for the team, that there will always be someone who is better than we are, that other people's ways of doing something are more likely to be right than ours; (or as I have put it before, in my case, forever self-doubting, looking for affirmation, being a pain in the neck!!).
If you are a bit like that, I hope the words above may help.
in the film of our lives.
In our own lives,
we will always be a part of the team.
There is no substitute's bench.
I realise that this may read as being somewhat egocentric, but my purpose in writing it is to address the problem that people like me may have of always feeling that everyone else is more important than we are, or that we won't be picked for the team, that there will always be someone who is better than we are, that other people's ways of doing something are more likely to be right than ours; (or as I have put it before, in my case, forever self-doubting, looking for affirmation, being a pain in the neck!!).
If you are a bit like that, I hope the words above may help.
Friday 20 November 2015
A postscript on the soup
Today, I added a sweet potato as well as a parsnip to the veg and it was really nice, we thought.
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About 'cold calls': a post script
After the 'oh so cool, calm and collected' account of my dealings with the above, two days later my poise, such as it is, was dented by a call on my MOBILE, would you believe! (How do they find our numbers?!)
A voice, which addressed me by name, as far as I can remember, before I could say anything, launched into "I believe you've been involved in an accident which wasn't your fault".
Well, I just found myself putting the phone down immediately, in real annoyance; the civil and studied politeness disappeared through the window!
The outrage was compounded by the fact that not only was it lunchtime, a much treasured time in the home of this branch of the early-retired, a group of which husband and I are grateful members, on top of that, the call interrupted "Bargain hunt"! I rest my case!!
PS I would like it known that the said programme is, of course, our only recourse to daytime television and is time-shared, be it noted, with eating. (Otherwise, I'd never get anything done!)
A voice, which addressed me by name, as far as I can remember, before I could say anything, launched into "I believe you've been involved in an accident which wasn't your fault".
Well, I just found myself putting the phone down immediately, in real annoyance; the civil and studied politeness disappeared through the window!
The outrage was compounded by the fact that not only was it lunchtime, a much treasured time in the home of this branch of the early-retired, a group of which husband and I are grateful members, on top of that, the call interrupted "Bargain hunt"! I rest my case!!
PS I would like it known that the said programme is, of course, our only recourse to daytime television and is time-shared, be it noted, with eating. (Otherwise, I'd never get anything done!)
Monday 16 November 2015
About dealing with 'cold calls'
My first tactic, when I've realised the nature of the call is, ignoring the caller's opening gambit, to say, politely and calmly, "What do you want, please?" If he or she persists with the spiel, I persist with, "What do you want please?!"
If the caller continues, not having recognised that this particular approach is unlikely to achieve much, I say, again, very politely, "I'm not interested, thank you; good-bye." and put the phone down. I must add here that nothing incenses me more than an enquiry as to 'how I am'! I feel like shouting down the phone, "What's it got to do with you."
I feel heart-sorry for the poor folk who are reduced to trying to earn a living in this way and have no wish to be rude. I really wish that someone would tell them that all we want (or don't want usually) is to know the purpose of the call, not an enquiry as to the state of our health!
All I can say is that this is the most successful tactic I've come up with so far and I hope it may be of use to someone else.
If the caller continues, not having recognised that this particular approach is unlikely to achieve much, I say, again, very politely, "I'm not interested, thank you; good-bye." and put the phone down. I must add here that nothing incenses me more than an enquiry as to 'how I am'! I feel like shouting down the phone, "What's it got to do with you."
I feel heart-sorry for the poor folk who are reduced to trying to earn a living in this way and have no wish to be rude. I really wish that someone would tell them that all we want (or don't want usually) is to know the purpose of the call, not an enquiry as to the state of our health!
All I can say is that this is the most successful tactic I've come up with so far and I hope it may be of use to someone else.
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